6th of June 2023
When dreams are destroyed by the scammers, the lives of the victims are destroyed at least for a while.
Some of the victims are strong and survive, but some are not that strong emotionally and don´t survive the emotional and financial abuse they have suffered from perhaps even for years.
This is an example of how the live of the victim could become:
“Being told every day for months how much you are loved and how wonderful you are and how the man can not wait to be with you and how he is suffering not being able to take care of you, makes your dreams come real in your mind.
Being given promises how the life will be just when he has managed to get through all the hurdles in the way. What a wonderful, happy and prosperous life it will be.
He will be working and providing for you and he will definitely pay you back all the money and sacrifice you have made to get him out of the misery where he is now.
Every day and every night you get the wonderful words, that in fact mean nothing but are to soften you and make you eager to help the man you so dearly have come to love.
Every message end with: I love you, or my love. Every message!
You get video calls where you are told how beautiful you are and how he misses you.
You get voice calls where he tells you how bad his health is and how he has to take care of his health before he can get the ticket to travel to you.
He is sick all the time. Why does that not trigger your stop signs?
How can he be working when he comes to you after being sick for months, and sometimes seriously ill and even afraid he will die from the illness? Why do you not believe your gut feeling? This is all to unbelievable to be true!
Why do you not act on it and end the relationship?
What is wrong with you?
Why does he again and again manage to manipulate you into believing in the dream and gain control over you?
What is wrong?
The feelings are there, you love the man you think he is and you don´t believe your gut feeling even though it is the same again and again.”
All this is normal and human and talks more about the kind heart of a woman than anything else. She is struggling to let go because she believes in the good in people.
She does not want to believe that all her sacrifices are for nothing.
Let’s continue tomorrow.
Hulda Björnsdóttir
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