19th of June 2023
Today I woke up rather disappointed.
I could not sleep well during the night and all kinds of thoughts were wandering through my mind, completely out of control.
This is normal.
I’m in the process of preparing for the surgery and I am working through the feelings of being scammed by a romantic scammer.
My pain threshold is low and I am dreading the days after the surgery.
I was also worried about how to manage after the other, bigger procedure when I get the help with my heart.
How am I going to manage for 4 weeks?
How am I going to manage to get the life running for the first 2 weeks when I am home and not allowed to do almost anything?
This is worrying beforehand!
I should just take one day at a time, and I know everything will be ok, I just have to organise and this time next year I will wonder why I was so afraid.
The scammer has broken me down and I am trying to rise up. Some days it is easy and some days it is complicated.
I am angry, angry because he treated me like a shit and angry with myself because I didn’t listen to my gut feeling.
I know all these feelings are normal, and should be allowed to surface. It is better to face them than just pushing them down and having them continue to affect my life.
Many victims and weaker than me and can’t survive. I am strong. Why am I writing about this? I can tell you that honestly. It would have been easier for me to just keep quiet and hide so no one would know how stupid I was. But, it is my duty to rise up and talk. My story may help someone either from landing in a situation like I did or help someone who is in the situation and does not know what to do.
Google, and gather information.
If you google you will find a lot about scammers. The romantic scammers are the most dangerous for your soul.
They manipulate you and abuse your heart and soul. They make you feel special and the smooth talk is there on top of everything.
You may talk to them on the phone and even on video and they will convince you that they are real.
They are, I think, rather stupid individuals, but they are cunning and have figured out how to manipulate.
The one that abused me showed his true side and his stupidity often, but I was blind and did not want to see what was in front of me.
If you are a victim, don´t feel ashamed. Feel angry.
You are not alone in the scammer’s situation.
The one who abused me has been working with other people. I can see that now, but I did not see it before. I did not want to believe my gutfeeling.
Just remember, there is a pattern. If it repeats, please leave. Believe your gut feeling.
Please stay safe if you are a victim and do everything in your power to get free from the criminal, because the romantic scammers are criminals who don´t spare any resource they have to get what they are after, the money!
If they promise you anything, it is all a lie.
If they try to convince you that your friends are wrong, when they tell you that this is not real love from the scammer, just listen to your friends, please.
Remember, the scammers, even the romantic scammers, work in groups. They unite against you to manipulate you and make you feel mean by doubting your lover!
Get help. Please!
Hulda Björnsdóttir
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