7th of June 2023
The broken heart they leave behind
Trying to get a scammer to admit he has broken your heart is useless.
He will blame others for the problems.
He will blame the victim’s friends for getting between with their nasty comments.
The victim suffers after realizing that all the promises were just empty promises and nothing else.
The heartbreak is something that can not be passed. It will happen but it will also heal.
The victim will try to get life back and walk into normal but it is not easy, but it’s there.
The victim’s strength appears and there are friends who can help.
There are even specialists who can guide the victim to recover as quickly as possible and that is perhaps the best way.
Rest assured that the scammer will contact the victim again and again and tell her how he misses the victim and how he longs for the wonderful conversations.
He will use a lot of “My love” and “I love you”. That’s what they think works.
He will again and again tell the victim how her friends envy the couple of their love! It is never any fault of the scammer, of course not.
There is always a healing path for the victims but it will take time.
There will come times when the victim is content and thinks everything is moving back to normal and then suddenly the scammer appears again and destroys the piece.
These happenings will get less painful for the victim as time goes by and eventually life will become beautiful again.
I would advise those who are victims of scams to take action as soon as they realise what is going on.
Get rid of the scammer.
Keep him away from your daily life and if he contacts you, just ignore him.
Eventually he will give up.
The best way is to try to think about things that make life normal, just normal daily tasks.
Take a walk and breath in the beauty of nature.
Sit down and listen to relaxing music.
Read a book.
Breath, breath in and breath out and visualise the shining light embracing you.
I don´t recommend hating the scammer.
They are despicable human beings but they are not worth the energy that goes into hating.
Let them be and trust that karma will get them.
There are good people in the world and they don´t give you pain in the gut feeling and shout at you to take care. The good people will make you feel good and at piece.
If the victim wants to report the scammer and try to put a stop to the work of the group, he is definitely working with a group, I would recommend to think carefully.
Is it going to work?
Will the group be destroyed?
Is it too painful to talk about the experience as a victim?
Some victims, perhaps most of them, feel humiliated and blame themselves for being naïve and believing the lies.
There is no need to feel humiliated. These scammers are cunning and clever.
There is always a pattern and when the same pattern happens again and again that’s when the warning bells are ringing.
Don´t expect that talking to the scammer may get him to admit anything wrong. He will always blame someone else. Blaming others for the delays for example is a strong sign that something is not true.
If you are a victim of a scammer, don´t blame yourself for being stupid. Embrace yourself and be patient. It takes time to heal. You will cry and you will be angry, but it is all part of the healing process.
You will be okay in the end.
I am writing this to make a small contribution to the destruction of the scammers. Maybe one person who reads this is a victim and my writing will help.
There is a lot of information on the internet on how to figure out what is happening if you have a feeling that you are a victim.
Look it up.
Go to the police if you think that might help.
If you have some papers from the scammer have them checked, if you can, to see if they are fake or not.
If you have been sending money, please stop that immediately.
Let’s unite to destroy the scammers.
Hulda Bjornsdottir
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