The narcissist always plays the victim!

No matter how
much you beg

a narcissist to
stop,

they will push
you past your limits

until you snap.

Then when you
do, they will stand back and act shocked

play the victim
and claim you’re crazy

This is the truth.

You feel like you are a bad person, not believing in the other person and
trusting them to death.

If you are in a situation like that, you will be surprised to experience the
pain when you realize how bad and untrusty you are. You may cry and ask for forgiveness.
You may feel the guilt eating you alive and you will not believe that you can
be so mean, not to trust all the beautiful love words.

The narcissist will get to know you well and figure out what buttons to push
to get you obedient.

Many use the health as a issue. They tell you they are sick and they need
your help to keep them alive.

They tell you that you are the only one that can help them to stay alive and
you might believe them and help, because after all you are the loving saviour.

You try to get free but it does not work.

You give in again and again but your gut feeling tells you this is not good.

You may become angry and tell the narcissist that the relationship is over.

You may feel the relieve when you are not having any communication with him,
but then one day you connect again. Its like a drug addiction. You stay sober
for a while and then you fall again!

You may cry and hope that you are mistaken and he is a good man who loves
you with all his heart, and you are the one that something is wrong with.

This is a pattern that only you, the victim can break.

It takes courage to stand on your own feet free from the abuse.

You may just wish, when you are about to end the relationship, that he would
admit that he has been using you. It is not until you realize and accept that
it will never happen, and that you have known all along that you are just being
lied to and used, that you will be free and can cut all connection.

It is sad to have to leave someone you truly gave you love, but it is for
the best for your mental health.

If you are in a situation like this and you decide to listen to your gut
feeling, you will be sad or you might be relieved to finally act to save
yourself.

Be prepared to take the step to freedom, free from the crying and hurt, free
to do with your live what you want, free to love yourself just as you are.

It will take time but you will get there. Just have patience and don´t give
in to the temptation to get the truth out of the narcissist. You will never get
it.

I wish you well if you are in this situation, and believe me, you can do it.
You are a loving kind hearted person who has been used by a criminal.

You stay strong and take care of yourself.

Hulda Bjornsdottir