All the red flags I ignored!

15. June 2023

Why did I not see the red flags?

Today is a hot day here in my little land and somehow not easy to survive.

It´s difficult when the heat goes up and even more complicated when the mind is not settled.

I have been thinking about why I did not act on the red flags that again and again appeared in front of me.

Why did I not see the scam in the beginning, but in truth what happened was I saw the flag but refused to believe my feeling.

Early on, the scammer told me that he was rich, he just needed to get the papers for a land he had inherited and then he could start digging and the gold was in the ground.

He even sent me a video where he was at a meeting and he held a piece of something, which was supposed to prove to me the gold was there but I knew the piece in his hand was not gold, just a green stone!

After the meeting with the people who had the papers, he went home without papers and one day he was attacked at his home and taken to the police station. The bad people had found out where he lived and came after him!

He had a friend of his ask me to friend on Facebook, which I did not immediately so they used the scammers Facebook to send me messages about the situation and ask me for help. They needed money, just a little, to help get him out of prison.

The friend told me he had taken a bike and was with the scammer! In the prison?  Of course, I did not believe this, but I still let me be manipulated.

The story was unbelievable and I heard the scammer whisper to his friend what to say!

What an idiot I was, there I knew exactly what was going on but I still let me be maniupulated into believing.

Before the meeting the scammer had gone to a bank and got a loan so he could buy machines to start digging. He had already marked his place on the land, or so he said!

I did not send money to free him for prion, not this time!

I struggled and accused him of being lying!

But he managed to get me back. I felt sorry for him, and there was this strange good connection between us!

I convinced myself that there were too many mean people believing that age and nationality were flags everyone should be on guard against!

We had a discussion about the matter many times and agreed on how ridicules it was. NOT EVERYONE WAS A SCAMMER!

I’m a good man he said. And I believed.

He was going to be rich and would buy houses all around the world when he had got the papers for the land and could start digging! He just needed some help to start. He had even gone to the place where he bought the machines for digging and asked for refund.

And I believed!

In the beginning he had said that it was a problem how old I was, but suddenly that was all forgotten. Now I was the love of his life and God had brought us together long before we were born! Seriously.

There was a story about him loosing his wife a year ago. She had died from a decease. I checked and this was true.

But,

He told me that a year before we met he had been with a woman in America and they had intended to get married and he had even sent her ring to US, a ring he had bought for his money!

Instead of she being the happy bride, he got a message from her husband and a video where they were making love, and the husband told him to go to hell.

This was supposed to have happened during the time when the scammer was with his wife and they making plans for the future, in fact if any of this was true, he was already cheating on his real wife!

I, the gullible idiot did not see through the lies and felt really sorry for my new friend!

When I look back there are millions of samples where I should have left immediately but I did not.

I can punish myself and kick myself and bee angry with myself for being such and idiot, but there is another choice, this happened, this is the past and sometimes all I can do is accept what was and let go of it and have faith in what the future will bring.

At the moment my responsibility is to take care of me. To work through the emotional turmoil and get my life back.

That will take some time, which is perfectly ok.

The money I have lost are just money.

The piece of mind I lost will come back.

This time next year I will be in a different situation, content with my life and happy every day.

Happiness is a choice.

Bad things happen and it is up to me to work through the feelings.

That is what I am doing. I have nothing to hide.

The truth has to come out, slowly step by step. One day the whole story will appear, but for now it is bits a pieces as I work through them.

Life is good.

I asked God to send me a sign I could understand, not many weeks ago, and immediately I got a phone call from the scammer where he told me how sick he was and how I was the only one to help him! I did not give in. I understood the message God had sent me. After a short while and some desperate crying I ended the relationship.

The scammer got angry, really angry, and blocked me on Facebook. That was his solution and showed me once and for all the true love he had for me. It was nothing, no love, just anger.

Hulda Bjornsdottir