CAN A SCAMMER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU?

12th of June 2023

Today is Monday and a new week has arrived.

How many new weeks I have waited for and hoped that this week the future husband would get his Working visa!

Week after week I believed.

Month after month I trusted.

Year after year I still trusted.

Being scammed is complicated when you are in the recovering process and today is a bit more difficult than yesterday and the days before.

Today is a day of tiny bit of sadness and sorrow.

Today is also a day of hope.

The hope gives strength and it will make me free.

Yesterday I got a message which said that now he had the passport with him. Does that mean he got the working visa? I don´t think so. I believe this is one more example of how seriously stupid he is. He thinks that I believe everything he tells me and he has not yet realised that I have left.

He thinks I am complete idiot, based on the outburst from me before where I have accused him of being a scam.

I decided to let HIM block me from WhatsApp just as he did from Facebook.

How can you block a person you say you love dearly?  You want to be able to connect, won’t you?

Anyway, I have been going through the communication and found many things quite interesting from the beginning which should have lit up the warning signs on my mind, but did not.

I fell into the trap and stayed there for 2 and a half year, believing the lies even though I did rise up again and again, accusing him of not being honest. He always managed to get me to change my opinion and everything was fine for some time again.

On the internet there is a lot of information about the scammers and this is one example.

“CAN A SCAMMER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU?

This may lead people to ask if scammers can actually fall in love. If you’ve been a victim of a romance scammer, its important to understand that THIS PERSON DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Their only goal is to extract something from you, most often money. Any promises of love or a future together are manipulations.”

The shame of being stupid and believing is there but it is fading away slowly day by day.

I have lost the dream and am facing the reality and it takes courage and strength not to fall apart but I will make it.

When I look at the situation with the eyes of a bystander, I see the scam clearly. What will the next days and weeks look like for me?

Will I manage to accomplice what I have started?

I believe so. I believe in my intelligence and I am going to use it wisely.

Something important has been taken away from me, the believe in human beings and that they are honest and loving, and can be trusted.  I will get this believe back and I am wiser now than I was 3 years ago. There is no doubt about that.

There are stages of grieve that I am going through.  I didn’t sleep well last night and that is ok. Grieving like someone you love dearly has died is the feeling I am experiencing combined with anger and disappointment.

I will continue to write the story but this is for today.

Hulda Bjornsdottir